Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread

When you write lady, I can only think of this character

I can confirm that she's never worn a schoolgirl's outfit that shows more skin than it covers, and I'm okay with that.

You don't want to see that character's design in the other DMC games...

I can't even think of her other design and I've played all the DMC games, yes even 2.

I've never had an issue with my parents' interactions with my partners, other than that my parents are boring and irritating people I prefer not to interact with when possible. Shen is also explicitly not close to her family, so that should be a non-issue.

Well. Oh boy.

That was one hell of a whirlwind romance. Right from day dot you guys were hearing about how head-over-heels I was for this girl and its only gotten stronger since. She's absolutely bloody perfect and we synch in every possible way. The only issue is unfortunate timing. She's heading back to the US for as long as a year, I'm still figuring out what my visa situation will be in Japan, so our relationship will be primarily online with ocassional passionate visits for the foreseeable. Does that suck? Yes. Will I get super emotional about it once the typhoon and all the delays are behind me and it feels real? Undoubtedly. Has it put either of us off for even a second? Oh hell no!

As I said to andy after our first date: I'mma marry her.

Not that it ever sounded like it wasn't going to work out for you two. We're all getting invites to the wedding, right?

Have you done long distance before, Drunka? From observing my friends that have had a long distance relationship, the only reason it doesn't work out is if that spark wasn't as strong as they'd first thought. That doesn't seem to be the case in your scenario though.

I want to come to the wedding, even though I barely know you and am on the fringes of GNamer at best. I'm content with a seat in the bushes on the outskirts.

Balladeer wrote:

 We're all getting invites to the wedding, right?

Yass!

That's my excuse to visit Japan sorted!

Rum can stand at the back of the church/shrine/whatever, stroking his beard and looking vaguely creepy.

Well, I just put Shen on a bus to Tokyo, to fly back to America. It's been 80 days, possibly 80 of the best days of my life, but now she's gonna be on the other side of the world again for a couple more months. It won't be a crazy 6-monther again, thank fuck, but I'm still pretty bummed.

Christ, I really bloody love her though. I mean, it isn't a serious relationship until I've forced her to watch Schindler's List, but we're close . . .

Drunkalilly wrote:

Christ, I really bloody love her though. I mean, it isn't a serious relationship until I've forced her to watch Schindler's List,  but we're close . . .

Save it for when you propose.

(don't do that)

"How many Jews could I have saved if I sold this?" I ask, as the end credits play and I open a little case to reveal an engagement ring.

After Drunka's good cheer, here's Balla to bring things back down again.  I'd appreciate any help you fellas can give, especially Treesmurf and GJones if they see this, ever.

The Lady and I had... not an argument, but one of those discussions that's worse.  She doesn't want kids and I've never thought about it really.  Recently I started thinking about it (thanks Mum, I guess), and the discussion went: she really doesn't want kids, that'll never change, she's now worried that I'll end it somewhere down the line because I about-turn and really want children, and if there's any chance of it changing for me in the future we'd better break up before she moves in and all that stuff.  All fair, all grim.

She's upset, and I essentially have a couple of days to decide about the rest of my life.

I've never had strong feelings either way.  My parents want grandkids, my girlfriend wants cats, and I've been happy to drift along with the latter's tide.  (For what it's worth Nupkin didn't want kids either.)  Trouble is, I don't know that I won't have stronger feelings down the line.  Kids annoy and delight me in equal measure right now, and I'm fairly sure I'd be a good dad but my low patience puts a check on that and anyway I don't know if I want to be that good dad.  I've always struggled to think more than a couple of years into the future, and part of that's fear of what I'll find there.

So: any of you gents got any strong feelings about having kids?  Especially the older gents?  (Everyone's views welcome though.) And especially Treesmurf and GJones, who I believe are the two on this forum who actually have kids.  When did you know you wanted them?  What have been the highs/lows of the 'children experience'?

Thank you for reading/responding, could really do with some help.

Hmm. I can't help much here. Shen and I are both pretty strongly of the opinion we don't want kids. The Earth will become unsustainable for human life within our lifetime, so it'd be pretty heartless to bring a child into the world knowing it will experience Armageddon.

Hey, that's still a strong feeling! I have actually taken to writing down a long list of pros and cons, and if there were room on the 'cons' page for 'shoddy thing to do to a kid' then that'd be going on it.

Literally anything helps, so thank you.

I was somewhat exaggerating for comic effect - other reasons are of course financial, lifestyle reasons and the fact that I get most of the "helping impact a young life" feeling I need from being a big brother/ cousin/ teacher.

But yeah: I think it's pretty crazy that people just will other sentient beings into existence, curse them with life, without consent. Nobody asked me if I wanted to exist in this terrible world! I feel pretty wronged, and I'm someone who generally enjoys life!

I've always found we want grandkids thing really odd, along with the when you getting married stuff.

Like your sister may have kids and in this day & age, their last name will be double-barreled more than likely, that the Kielty name will continue on.

That it comes down to you and I guess you've got to ask yourself when you're 90, would you regret not having kids? But could you just be the cool Aunt and Uncle to your sister's kids and I don't know if The Lady has any siblings?

It is weird.  They're both unpleasant relics of a bygone age.  My parents are massively traditional in some regards, while being weirdly liberal in others; and that might have passed on to my sister I suppose, who could well decide that 'Kielty' isn't that great, only I have two male cousins with the same name so I hope it's not that.  That would be even more stupid.

The 90 question is the big one though, you're right, and honestly the only one that matters... and I don't know the answer. The Cool Uncle thing sounds good, to be honest, because like Drunka I'd like to be helpful to some kids in some way I think, and unlike Drunka I currently don't.

The Lady's sibling ain't having kids any time soon, for reasons I shouldn't go into because they're not mine to share. Thanks for your thoughts and support Mas.

masofdas wrote:

Like your sister may have kids and in this day & age, their last name will be double-barreled more than likely, that the Kielty name will continue on.  

This is this most "Balla is a posho" comment I think I've seen on the forum.

I don't think my opinion is gonna make this any easier, becoming a Dad is easily the greatest experience of my life. It's always something I knew I'd want someday, I never knew when, it was something I felt is just a part of life. It probably helped that my partner was always excited by the prospect and she's a natural who's made it a lot easier for me and know I'm thankful every minute I get to spend with Lyla.

It probably comes down to you and your partner though, I never really got how having a child would feel until I had one so you could say it's a case of what you don't know you can't want. I wouldn't worry about what your parents say as it's your decision so it's all down to you, if you have no strong feeling right now then I guess you shouldn't worry, it might prove problematic down the line if you have a change of heart but I don't know how you'll know for sure right now.

I didn't really mean it like that but as a male, he would continue on the great name, where his sister's kids shouldn't traditionally but why can't those kids have a double-barreled name, like a lot seem to have now.

I know I kid, was just too good not to point out.

Treesmurf wrote:

I don't think my opinion is gonna make this any easier, becoming a Dad is easily the greatest experience of my life. It's always something I knew I'd want someday, I never knew when, it was something I felt is just a part of life. It probably helped that my partner was always excited by the prospect and she's a natural who's made it a lot easier for me and know I'm thankful every minute I get to spend with Lyla.

It probably comes down to you and your partner though, I never really got how having a child would feel until I had one so you could say it's a case of what you don't know you can't want. I wouldn't worry about what your parents say as it's your decision so it's all down to you, if you have no strong feeling right now then I guess you shouldn't worry, it might prove problematic down the line if you have a change of heart but I don't know how you'll know for sure right now.

Thanks for saying this Smurf. It doesn't make it any easier, no, but it's still good to read. I've talked to two other fathers about their experience (my own and Mr. Scullion) and they all say something similar. Slightly easier in your case as you've always known you wanted one, which is definitely not my own...

I don't know how I'm meant to predict the future either, but I guess tonight has helped put things into perspective a bit.

Have you only been talking to known dads? They're naturally going to say it's good and wonderful and the best thing because their body is literally built to tell them that when they see their spawn. Also, nobody's ever gonna say it's not good and worthwhile, that'd be a horrible thing to say!

Do you have any older relatives, or know anyone, who never had kids? Perhaps a gay couple or something? Do they feel happy and fulfilled? It is the heteronormative ideal to be a breeder but not the only way to be fulfilled in life.

Overall the basic cost of raising a child in the UK from birth to the age of 21 is £229,251. Assuming a new Nintendo console every seven years, you'd have like 70 grand per machine. That'd cover the console, peripherals, every game you could possibly be interested in playing, hardware revisions, and meet-ups to play with the lads.