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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyMon 22 Jul 2019 - 18:28

I wish I had something worthwhile to add Balla, but having children is so far from my mind right now that I can't give any decent advice or my own point of view. I'm still trying to get myself in order, let alone worry about nurturing a wee sprog and giving them a great upbringing.

I think Drunka's advice about finding some older individuals who have never had kids to get an opposing viewpoint is good advice, mind you - it always helps to look at a situation from multiple angles.
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyMon 22 Jul 2019 - 20:24

I suppose I should add that when I say I knew I wanted to have kids, it was never really in the sense that I felt I was missing out, more that I felt it was just one of those things. As Drunka says, I'm always gonna say how amazing it is but I couldn't have ever known how I'd feel until that point, it could have been completely different.
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyMon 22 Jul 2019 - 21:30

Same actually. It's always just been part of the way I saw myself going, apart from when I was with people who didn't want kids, when I didn't really think about it. Then I actually thought about it and it turns out that maybe I actually want them a bit.

I went with my girlfriend in the end, and I don't know whether I made the right decision. I want kids, I think, but in only two days my mind's been rushed and my parents have been the only people I've talked to in person and that may have given me an unfair view. I love my girlfriend more than a hypothetical kid at the moment, but did I just go with the easy option because breaking up is hard in the short-term?

Anyway, thanks to y'all for reading my rambling bollocks. Thanks especially to Smurf for popping his face in here after I dragged him in off Facebook. Coming up next: why Meteos and/or PMTTYD is the greatest thing since garlic bread.

(And now I've got to go post a picture of somebody loving his kid JESUS CHRIST Rolling Eyes )
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyTue 23 Jul 2019 - 6:52

Honestly mate, I realise this is coming after you’ve made your decision, but that last post is more concerning than anything else you’ve posted.

As someone who did a whole bunch of repressing how I really felt for 8 years to the point that I literally still don’t know who I am I can’t let that slide. It sounds like you do want them and that’s not something you should deny yourself for the easy way. I’m well aware of the easy way as well and I promise you that brings no joy either... It’s easy to give yourself up for a person, but it’s not a good idea.

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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyTue 23 Jul 2019 - 14:53

If, in a year's time, you still feel like you want kids and this is an issue, I'd be with Andy. As it is, though, it sounds like amybe you weren't really interested, then someone brought it up, you kind of liked the idea, but maybe you'll forget about it? Like how, the week before payday, I might crave a mcdonalds like crazy but by the time I've got cash in my pocket, I don't really fancy a McDonalds any more.

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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyTue 23 Jul 2019 - 15:07

That's the thing in a years time Balla does want kid's and isn't like your Maccys then like you say it be a issue, if The Lady has moved in etc then it's like nah I want kids, you don't, maybe we should go are separate ways.

Or could be 8 years like Andy
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyWed 24 Jul 2019 - 0:30

If that's the case, that's a problem for one year from now Balla.
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyWed 24 Jul 2019 - 22:01

Hello it's me, the world's least decisive person, coming to you live from London. I basically think all three of you are right: I may well be repressing myself, but I don't know because it has all been a bit of a blur. I think I need time to determine whether I do actually want kids or have been shocked into action by this conversation. Fortunately The Lady has been reasonably understanding, but yeah: any thoughts of moving in together have to be pushed back a bit.

Also as well as the kids thing, which I think is fair for me to consider, my mum sent me an e-mail today saying she thinks TL (who is chronically shy) is somewhere on the spectrum and could we talk about it. My mum is ill, as I think I mentioned elsewhere, so I can't really say, 'Fuck off you controlling git,' but I'm kinda thinking it. It's also making me second-guess what I thought was the first useful piece of relationship advice she's given me, purely because it comes from her.
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyTue 30 Jul 2019 - 12:10

I don't value the opinion of anyone from my parents' generation on any subject.
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyTue 12 Nov 2019 - 20:29

Today is my and The Lady's third anniversary.  We're doing nothing today, but we're doing a lot of stuff over the weekend.  We're exchanging gifts, going for a posh Italian bookended by bubbly, going to our favourite chain, cooking each other our favourite meals, going to the annual NaNoWriMo party we originally met at to relive the horrendously awkward experience, and hopefully playing lots and lots of Pokémon.  (She's also getting FETH, and I might be getting a game.  Neither of us knows.)

I didn't just come here to boast though: I kind of wanted to tie up the loose end I left.  I have tried to think more about having kids and my future in the interim, but she's kind of got in the way.  She's great and I'm deeply in love with her.  I think the kids have to fit into that framework, if they happen at all (she's dubious but hasn't entirely slammed the door on it).  If they don't I'll just try and be a great uncle or something, if I need that in my life.  I can't say I'm 100% sure with it, but it's... BotW levels of sure.

I've got a week with the parents over Christmas to struggle through, should that come up, although I think I've made them reasonably well aware of where things stand.  If that goes off without a hitch, she's willing to pocket the spare key to my flat.  I hope that can be the start of us moving in together.


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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyThu 14 Nov 2019 - 23:24

That sounds promising Balla! I hope everything goes according to plan and you can begin living together. Grin
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyFri 15 Nov 2019 - 21:56

I am being treated to the poshest Italian I’ve ever been to. Also Teh Lady bought me A Hat in Time.

This is wonderful. WONDERFUL I SSY

(even if she did get an entir bloody Switch NO IM NOT BITTER)

Anyway it’s great. I hope you’re all having a splendid (checks calendar) 15th Movember, that most arbitrarily special day of the year. Grin
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PostSubject: Re: Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread   Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread - Page 25 EmptyThu 21 Nov 2019 - 0:30

Was this a rare somewhat under the influence Balla post? It's still put together better than most of my pish. Laughing
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It was one of those rare occasions where I don't remember the latter part of the night at all, which was a shame. Laughing Champagne, then cocktails, then another bottle of wine will do that to a person.
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